Why You Need to Stop Demanding Results to Build Good Relationships
Today’s lesson is improving the process to get results, don’t just demand results and it is a piece of advice that will really help you to build good relationships.
When I say process, I mean your life consists of a bunch of processes. Big ones, small ones, simple ones, complex ones.
A big process may be your relationship with your significant other.
A small process may be how you make tea.
A simple process may be how you go about tying your shoe.
A complex process may be how you deal with depression or anxiety in your life.
The main takeaway from the video is to stop demanding results from people, instead, the idea is to improve the process by helping them come up with solutions.
You will find it makes everyone happier and less stressed out and will really help build good relationships.
Use It or Lose It:
To stop demanding results:
Figure out a way to solve the problem by coming up with a solution by improving the process instead of just yelling at them and not giving them any useful suggestions.
When to Use ‘Stop Demanding Results to Build Good Relationships’:
Whenever you find yourself demanding results from people in your life when it would be more useful for you to help come up with a solution instead.
What Do You Think?
Can you think of any examples where you have improved the process to get results instead of just demanding results? Please share them with us in the comments below.
Thanks for watching, behave and until next time…Prime Your Pump!
– Howie
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Howard – I had to google Kahn Academy, as I had never heard of this before. As my wife has told me “every so often you are ahead of the times”. In the late 90’s and early 2000’s I worked with a group in Lockheed that developed computerized training scenarios, including tests (which were scored and recorded by name of the person). This then led to setting up entire interactive computer modules, where one could search on a key word and obtain a list of its occurrence in all the tech manuals and documents which had been optically scanned. Click on an item on the list, and the computer program found the page from that manual and displayed it on the screen.
We used this to train the launch team for the Air Force’s Milstar satellites. Several of us traveled to the Cape and installed the program onto a computer in the launch control center, from where the “big muckety mucks” (colonel and above) could play with it. One additional feature was to track the countdown in real time – as steps were accomplished and checked off, I sat at a console, listened, and turned that countdown checklist step Green on the screen. Steps that were delayed were turned Yellow. The “big muckety mucks” thought this the greatest thing since sliced bread.
Only one problem – we designed this to run on Hypercard, which was only Macintosh compatible. With the shift to IBM based software, we became an anachronism.
Working with children, strategy and process were key to the success of each student. Great blog ! K
There is no doubt about it! Thanks for the comment
An excellent video! Reminds me of when my daughter started learning that subject which becomes the bane of all students – math. She was having trouble, which I expected, so I figured out a way to make math hopefully easier for her. On an old TRS 80 computer, I wrote a simple routine for addition and subtraction. The screen randomly chose a problem – such as 8 + 4? She had to type in the answer on the keyboard. If a correct answer, the screen showed a smiley face and a comment like “Absolutely correct” or “Congrats, you got it”. If wrong, a thumbs down, and “Try again”.
She loved it. I subconsciously thought: she just likes playing on the computer. But when the school began to teach multiplication and division, she asked me to set up the computer, which I did. Math was never her strong subject, but she received passing grades, and today she can balance her checkbook.
A question – did Rick sneak into your office and hang that sign on your bookshelf behind you?