This is How a Statistician Sees Relationships!
This week’s video is about how a statistician (me) sees relationships.
I have a pretty unusual view of the world. I see it as a complex set of interrelated processes or systems.
I use the words process and system interchangeably.
Relationships are processes/systems; for example, your relationship with:
your spouse,
your parent,
your child,
your friends,
your colleagues,
the IRS,
to name a few relationships.
A process/system is an interacting group of components working toward a common aim or mission.
So is a relationship!
How to view your relationships with others or groups
First, your relationships (processes) must each have a mission. Where do you want the relationship to be in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?
Second, you have to identify the critical components of your relationship. What do you want out of the relationship?
Third, you need some type of measurement to understand how a specific relationship is going.
First, your relationships (processes) must each have a mission.
Where do you want the relationship to be in 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?
For example, my mission in life (my process) is to generate positive energy into the universe. That is what I plan to be written on my tombstone.
Second, you have to identify the critical components of your relationship.
What do you want out of the relationship?
The critical components of a relationship could include, but are not limited too:
Friendship
Companionship
Financial comfort
Spiritual comfort
Children
Travel
Sex
To name a few possible components of a relationship
All the above components of a relationship interact with each other in unknown and complex ways.
Third, you need some type of measurement
This will allow you to understand how a specific relationship is going.
Use It or Lose It to Make It Actionable
First, your relationships (processes) must each have a mission.
Second, you have to identify the critical components of your relationship.
Third, you need some type of measurement to understand how a specific relationship is going.
When to Use It:
Right now!
What Do You Think?
What do you think of a statistician’s view of a relationship? Please write your answer in the comments below.
Until next time, behave and as always…Prime Your Pump!
–Howie
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Relationships can become complex. There are so many different relationships ( I.e., work, family, neighbour etc.). Their success usually depends on integrity, unselfishness and work. The problem is that there are so many intervening factors that can upset the relationship. As humans, we all have feelings. When we feel taken for granted, devalued, disrespected etc. these factors negatively impact our relationships. The idea is to try and remain positive and take care of meaningful relationships and let go of the toxic ones.
Great video Howie. And you do not have an unusual view of the world; your concepts are much more sane and well thought out than those of the average mutley on the street. One must work on personal relationships, they don’t just happen by themselves. Components of a relationship vary by age, financial status, presence or absence of kids. The percentage of each component constantly changes.
I like your concept relative to arguments as shown on the charts. We both believe we have flat lined in the middle, there are very few, if any, arguments. I cannot remember the last time I got whacked on the noggin with a cast iron skillet. Basically, neither one of us likes to fight. There has got to be some calm rationale way of handling the situation; we just have to jointly figure out what that is. Heck, you do not make it through 46 years without compromise. If I did not have that stabilizing female force in my life, I’d probably be living now in San Quentin. You obviously have the same type of stable relationship (as shown by the first chart), or else we might have been roommates looking through the bars.